"The point about love is, of course, that when I love I affirm the differentness of the one I love. Not to do so is of course not love at all, but lust. But, at the same time, when I love I am not a detached observer. I am passionately and compassionately involved with the life and being of that (whether a thing, a person, or God) which I am loving. I am fully involved in the process of knowing, but this doesn't mean it's all 'subjective', that there's nothing 'out there'. Or, to put it the other way, though I am really talking about a reality outside my own mental state, this doesn't mean I am a detached, 'neutral' observer."
-N.T. Wright, The Millennium Myth, pp.86, 88-89